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60 // Feeling Disillusioned When Things Don't Work On Your Healing Journey

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In this episode, I reflect on and discuss the feeling of disillusion that often comes when things don't work for you on your healing journey.

Feeling hopeful about healing our health issue is a great first step on the path, but when we try lots of things and they don't work, we end up exhausted, hopeless, and disappointed. What do we do then? Do we give up? Do we keep trying?

The steps I discussed with this process:

1. Feelings: allow for the feelings to be present with some space. Feeling is healing!
2. Meaning making: enquire what meaning we are making from the disillusion. What narrative are we making?
3. Blind spots: do you feel there is something you are missing? Do you get a sense that there could be a block in the unconscious field or in the ancestral field?
4. Nervous system: how has your nervous system been in the journey of healing and recovery?
5. Beliefs: do you believe that you can recover or have ease and peace in your body? What believes do you have? What is your truth?
6. Loyalties/benefits: what or who could your chronic pain be serving?
7. Personal growth: what personal development and growth lessons have you acquired along your journey e.g. boundaries in relationships
8. Mindset & Expectations: Some reflection questions might be – can I go easier on myself? What have my expectations been? What works? What doesn't work? Can I let that go? What do I not like or not want?
9. Well-enoughness: what is your well-enoughness place in the reality and context of your life?
10. Safety with emotions: what other emotions need processing and safety to process?

Take what you like and leave the rest!

Book mentioned: Anam Cara by John O'Donohue


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